7 Things People Always Say to Me

7 Things People Always Say to Me

It has been awhile since I’ve written anything that isn’t a review, so let’s shake things up a little with a vaguely personal post! Here’re a couple of things people have always said to me, many of which they still do till this day:

“What are you?”

Being born a multiracial means many things, and one of those things is that you’ll get a lot of questions probing into the nature of your ethnicity. I’m definitely no stranger to this, especially since I bear no resemblance to any race out there, but there are times when I’m astounded by how tactless some people can be.

“What are you?” Really?

“You’re not [multiracial/insert race]. You’re [insert race].”

Unfortunately, the idea of interracial marriage has yet to reach the minds of some. Perhaps they still live in an era where racial purity is the only way to go, or they just can’t comprehend how people from two different races can get together, especially if the both of them possess different religions.

The level of denial I’ve witnessed thus far can be quite perplexing. So much so that they can go as far as to deny a person’s racial heritage if their looks don’t match their religion.

“You work too much.”

This is a funny one because as of late, it doesn’t really register in my mind that I do work a lot. Maybe it’s because I’ve finally found something that I like doing, or because I feel like I finally have a damned purpose, but none of it feels like work to me. I happen to enjoy my new job, I love contributing articles to websites during my free time and I adore my language classes.

Sure, it can get tiring at times, but in my mind, it is all well worth it. If I work hard now, I can have things a bit easier later, is what I think.

“Mel has no feelings/interests.”

I do. I just can’t be bothered to tell you.

Which probably isn’t a very good thing, if I’m honest. Because I’m big on privacy, I have a natural dislike for sharing too much about myself with other people. Not that I’d tell this to anyone’s face, of course. Instead of saying just that, I’d laugh and joke that I have no interest aside from catching some Zzzzs.

This is a flaw that I’m working on, and I’m slowly learning to warm up to people and make (more) friends.

“Are you gay?/Do you hate men?”

No and no.

Due to my lack of interest in the men that have approached me thus far, and the model-like beauties I used to share an office with, people started to speculate whether I play for the same team. –That said, though, now that I think about it, people have been wondering that since my college years.

Of course, I didn’t help matters by hardly ever giving a proper answer. Let them speculate, was my thought. At least they’d nag me less about dating.

“I’m very interested to see what kind of person you’ll end up with.”

This comment usually comes from people who know me as a person with zero interests. Because you know, I let them believe that.

To be fair, when I was still a stubbornly private person, I didn’t know what I liked either. I have a better idea of what I like now, but even then, I’m not the type to purposefully hunt for a partner. If it happens, it happens.

“You’re going to marry a workaholic.”

“The guy you’ll end up with will either work as much as or even more than you.”

“I can’t imagine you being interested in someone who doesn’t at least work as hard as you do.”

Etc, etc… Not going to lie, the thought of ending up with a husband who is barely home freaks me out, but I don’t think these assessments are wrong either. I just have to look at my track record of recent guys I was interested in… One worked 7 days a week for months on end, with the rare 6-day week whenever he was lucky. So…

I seriously don’t see myself liking a guy who is complacent and lazy about his career, so I’ll just have to hope whatever poor sod I end up with (if any) doesn’t have some job with brutal hours.

But then again, with the way things are now, everyone is a bit of a workaholic, aren’t they?

Anime Review: ReLIFE

Genre: Science fantasy, drama, romance

Episodes: 13

Rating: 7/10

To get another chance at living an easier, more carefree time of your life. That would be ideal, wouldn’t it? No more worrying about searching for a new job, paying the bills, or any of that old, boring, crusty adult stuff.

That’s exactly the deal that 27 year old Kaizaki Arata gets when he meets a mysterious man called Yoake Ryō.

One pop of a magic pill and he’d be rejuvenated by 10 years- which would then allow him to attend highschool all over again. That would be a dream come true for many. Unfortunately, life isn’t an anime, no matter how much we wish it would be.

Luckily for Kaizaki, ReLIFE is one.

So what is ReLIFE exactly about?

If you’ve taken the time to at least keep up with news regarding Japan every now and then, you might have heard of the term “karoshi”, and in turn, the difficulties found in a Japanese working environment.

For those who aren’t aware, “karoshi” is a Japanese word that is defined as death from overwork, or suicide from work-related stress.

As one of the few Japanese entertainment shows to touch upon the subject, I was immediately intrigued. An anime about karoshi? You can bet I’d pay to see that- and I did.

The story starts with a peek at half-NEET Kaizaki Arata’s daily life. After quitting his job of only 3 months, he struggles to find employment, as companies refuse to hire someone who seems unreliable on paper. He claims that the reason behind his resignation is that the company “does not fit his highest potential” when in reality, he couldn’t bear the thought of working for a black company any longer.

So with his reputation in pieces, he walked away from that job and has been struggling ever since. The situation only worsens when his parents cut off his allowance, and he has to fall back on his only other source of income- a part-time job he managed to snag at a mini market.

It is at this point that Yoake enters his life, and offers him a job opportunity, on the condition that he agrees to be a test subject for a scientific experiment first. This experiment involves rejuvenating Kaizaki by 10 years and sending him back to highschool as a student, in order to fix whatever is wrong with his life as well as to provide a chance of enjoying youth again.

Desperate and running out of funds, Kaizaki agrees and signs the contract.

So that was it. He has a year to fix his life and maybe, just maybe, score a job.

Getting a bit too real in here

Despite the obviously fantastical element, ReLIFE does manage to weave in doses of bitter reality in its tale.

The Japanese working environment is not an easy one, and ReLIFE does not hesitate to explore the hardships it possesses. From sexism, power harassment and disregard for life, this anime lays it out on a silver platter. The content is perhaps not as in depth as one might wish it would be, but it does the job nonetheless. And it is through this that one might get the Japanese’ obsession with the highschool genre- things were just much more simple back then, no?

That said, ReLIFE is not without its light-hearted moments. It has plenty of those, especially when Kaizaki struggles to fit in as a student. Having been out of school for so long, the really-a-27-year-old has completely forgotten what he had learned in classes all those years ago. Maths? What the heck is that? The man can’t remember how to solve third year equations for the life of him.

Don’t even get him started on his dilemma with a certain attractive and jarringly familiar girl in his class.

So is ReLIFE worth a watch? I would think so, especially if you’re interested in the subject of karoshi.

The anime retains a fun, easy-going feel despite its darker undertones, and this makes it easier to watch in one go. There is plenty of humour to be had in this, with an amusing cast of characters and their own stories to further colour it.

I look forward to watching Season 2 the conclusion of this series.

Beauty Review: Innisfree’s Super Volcanic Pore Clay Mask

Beauty Review: Innisfree’s Super Volcanic Pore Clay Mask

What is it?

Winner of 22 Global Beauty Awards, Innisfree’s Super Volcanic Pore Clay Mask (RM58) has high expectations placed upon it by all who encounter it. Which may be surprising to some considering its super affordable price.

After all, high price = super quality, doesn’t it?

Not at all in this case.

This 6-in-1 clay mask focuses on the following: pore tightening, sebum control, dead skin cell exfoliating, deep cleansing, and skin complexion improvement through its cooling effect. If you’re not sold on this just yet, then take note that Innisfree claims that it is more effective in controlling sebum than mud and red clay.

Which ought to score a hurrah from combination/oily skin types, but let’s take a look at how well it performs first.

What is it like?

When I first opened the container, I was surprised by how dry the mask looks. I have used my fair share of clay masks by now, and this was the first time I encountered one that was that dry. It wasn’t by any means deprived of all moisture, but it was dry enough that it was somewhat hard to scoop out and apply on my face. The texture is drier and stiffer than what I’m used to, but not enough to put me off. As long as it works, it’s all good, no?

And almost as though to make up for its texture, the mask was surprisingly comfortable to wear. There was some feeling of tightness, but overall, it was just… nice. I didn’t find it uncomfortable in the least.

Washing it off was quite easy too. There was no need for excessive rubbing or even scrubbing; the mask just washes off after a few splashes and wipes.


While I do not abhor the idea of masks coming in pots much like this one, it does bring with it the concern of hygiene.

Of course, I always make sure to wash my hands before applying a mask on, but constantly dipping my fingers in the pot to spread more of it on my face… That can’t be clean, right? Right.

I would’ve preferred it if this came in a tube.

End result

It is always a pleasure to find affordable products that deliver results, and this was a feeling I rediscovered the day I decided to give Innisfree a try.

And to date, I honestly can’t think of a single Innisfree product that fits that image more than the Super Volcanic Pore Clay Mask. Priced at just RM58, I was happily taken aback by how clean my face looked after I washed the mask off.

If that sentence doesn’t make sense, then allow me to elaborate. After I washed the mask off, I found that my pores were smaller, tighter and for the most part, unclogged. That was not all, though. Thanks to the deep cleansing effect of the mask, my skin was also brighter and enjoyed an improvement in texture. It was amazing.

My good experience carried on till the next day as well, because my skin produced much less oil than before. If that’s not a call for me to keep using this baby, then I don’t know what is.

Quick overview


  • Pores appear smaller and tighter
  • Pores are unclogged; less blackheads and whiteheads
  • Skin texture is improved; it’s brighter and smoother
  • Excellent oil controlling properties
  • Immediate results


  • Mask texture is a bit stiff
  • Comes in a pot

Where can I find it?



  • Product rating: 4/5
  • Packaging rating: 4/5

Will I repurchase this? Oh, definitely, definitely. For the price and the results it gives, you can bet your bottom ringgit I will.


Water, Butylene Glycol, Volcanic Ash, Silica, Trehalose, Kaolin, Bentonite, Polyvinyl Alcohol, Caprylic/Capric Triglyceride, Zinc Oxide (Ci 77947), Glyceryl Stearate, Cetearyl Alcohol, Juglans Regia (Walnut) Shell Powder, Camellia Sinensis Leaf Extract, Citrus Unshiu Peel Extract, Opuntia Coccinellifera Fruit Extract, Orchid Extract, Camellia Japonica Leaf Extract, PVP, PEG-100 Stearate, Polysorbate 60, Stearic Acid, Palmitic Acid, Hydrogenated Vegetable Oil, Xanthan Gum, Iron Oxides (CI 77499), Zea Mays (Corn) Starch, Sorbitan Stearate, Polyacrylate-13, Mannitol, Microcrystalline Cellulose, Lactic Acid, Polyisobutene, Menthoxypropanediol, Ethylhexylglycerin, Tetrasodium Pyrophosphate, Polysorbate 20, Iron Oxides (CI 77491), Disodium EDTA, Phenoxyethanol.